When the term “marriage” comes to your mind, what do you think about it? Do you think only of happy endings, endless love, forever life partner, a person who will always be by your side till death, adjustments, compromises, living in the same house with each other, kids, responsibilities, in-laws, promises from your partner, dowry, money, expensive gifts, loyalty, sacrifices, etc., or just a basic necessity that you have to do as it is compulsory in our society for every man or women to marry at some point in their life. Since the lifestyle and environment around us has changed a lot through so many years, the concept of marriage is also changing in our society. Many of us are educated, mature, self-sufficient, and care more about our mental health. So now many people are going into a state where they think they want to be single all their life as marriage seems like a very big responsibility and burden to them. Marriage is not about all these things for me, especially in today’s time. Marriage is beyond all these things. When you get deep into understanding this topic, you will never get to its end point. Because for many people marriage is something that will be there with you till death. A life partner who will be beside you all your life through all your highs and lows till you take your last breath. And for some people it is just a few years contract, where you can be with your partner under the same roof, raise kids, and leave your partner when you feel satisfied or get bored with your routine life.
Marriage is all about, how two people come together in one space to make theirs’s and their children’s life peaceful, complete, beautiful, and successful. They solve problems together, help each other in need, give emotional support to each other, take care of each other’s health, grow with each other, be with each other even in the tough times, and make each other more matured, disciplined, responsible, and good. But sadly, today’s generation don’t think like this. They say we can do all these things by ourselves. We are not dependent on others for surviving and have the capacity to take care of ourselves and meet all our needs without a man or women. But what we don’t understand is that human beings are social animals. We are directly or indirectly dependent on each other for survival. God has made us like that. Just like we have our parents, siblings, and blood relations for life, we also need a life partner and children to complete our life cycle. Marriage is essential when it comes to raising kids. Believe it or not every child wants the love of both their mother and father. Some children don’t show or talk about it, but this is the basic need of every child.
Thatswhy parents play a very important role in the mental health of a child. Their behavior, personality, and presence make a very huge impact in their life. This is the reason most of the married couples are scared to bring kids into this world. They think they are not capable enough to give a good life to their kids as they are still struggling with their own mental and physical health and the chaos going on in the outside world. And when you don’t want kids, people are not getting ready to marry too as they don’t want any adjustments, responsibilities, or compromises. They are happy living alone without any tension or stress. They think they are happy, but deep inside they are still feeling lonely without a life partner and kids around them. Your family and best friends can never make you feel the way your life partner and your kids make you feel. A good life partner and kids make your life complete and worth it. You will have someone waiting for you at home, cheering up with you on good days, giving emotional support when you are sad, and taking care of you when you are not feeling well.
Men and women think very differently when it comes to their marriage. They have different expectations with each other. Everyone wants a perfect partner. Any one flaw in the partner will make them take a very big decision like divorce. Thatswhy its important for every person to learn some facts about marriage. Like, the responsibilities of both the partners, how to handle conflicts, how to take care of your partner, how to deal with in-laws, how to take care of kids, etc. I request everyone to gain some knowledge about marriage and relationships before deciding to get married. Don’t just blindly get into marriage and later suffer a lot when nothing happens as you expected. Because marriage is not something that is shown in movies, or dramas. You have to be prepared for the worst things that would happen in a marriage. What you have to do in marriage is just do your responsibility and be loyal to your partner. Leave the rest to them and God. Don’t expect anything in return from them.
No husband or wife is perfect, and they cannot be too even if they try their best. We are humans and we all have our own flaws. We can adjust to small mistakes, but when it comes to our self-respect, health, and freedom, we should not compromise at all just for the sake of our parents or society. I have heard somewhere that just like we don’t cut ties with our siblings, parents, or relatives though they are bad, we should also not cut ties with our partner when they are bad too. I see this very illogical. When our family members are bad, we stay away from them and meet them only once a while and try to avoid meeting or talking to them as much as we can. But a partner is the one with whom we stay till death in the same house. How can we be with a toxic partner under the same roof every day without complaining. Thatswhy people give divorce. Not because the person is bad. Only because you cannot stay with a bad person every day for a long time in a very toxic environment. This will affect your mental and physical health and your everyday routine. You cannot be patient for long. There will come a certain point when you feel to break free from that relationship. This happens when your mind and heart are completely strained due to continuous hurt. I advise to wait for at least 4 to 5 years after marriage before taking any big decision if your partner is not very toxic. After 5 years, people change and you will know what you have to do next with your own life.
Future marriage will be less about social obligation and more about people’s conscious choice. People will marry because it adds value to their lives, not because it’s the expected milestone. In future, people will face less pressure to marry early or when they are in their 20s, there will be more emphasis on emotional compatibility and shared values, and the “Forever” word in marriage becomes aspirational. This idea already pops up in sociology and law discussions, that is called marriages with review points. There are marriage contracts for 5, 10, or 20 years even today in some countries, marriage renewal is based on mutual consent, and it removes stigma from separation and reframes it as evolution, not failure. This may sound unromantic to some and freeing to other people. People used to find love after marriage in their partner, but now people find love first and then marry another partner who has all the qualities to be a perfect life partner.
In future, instead of one rigid model, marriage may become customizable into financial arrangements, parenting roles, living together vs. apart, monogamy, ethical non-monogamy, or other structures. Love stays emotional; marriage becomes practical and transparent. As societies globalize, marriage rituals will be more mix-and-match like blended traditions, smaller and more personal ceremonies, less focus on public display and more on private meaning. Future marriages will likely prioritize Mental health, Communication skills, and Individual growth within partnership. Partners won’t be expected to “complete” each other—just to walk alongside. What won’t change is that despite all the shifts, people will still crave for Commitment, Stability, and being chosen again and again. Marriage won’t vanish—it’ll just stop pretending there’s only one way to do it.
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